What is love? It seems to be a simple question, doesn’t it? Three little words yet their true meaning can be so elusive. Even today psychologists, anthropologists, philosophers, biologists, and everyday people like you and me try to understand what love is and isn’t. Love is a force of nature that can snare our attention until it becomes an obsession or drive someone to give their life for another. There is no doubt it is powerful but how do you define it? To even consider how to define love you have to dig deep.
I mean you must dive into the Mariana Trench of the ocean depths to think about love.
Introduction to Musings on Love-with Sabrina
I am blessed to be a wedding photographer who thinks about love and relationships daily. Even more so, I get to capture and illustrate couples love stories for them. I care deeply for all my couples, and I want to share my observations, studies, and personal experiences with them and you.
Thus, let me introduce you to Musings on Love with me, Sabrina. I have avoided blogging about love for a long time due to many things, but I am not going to get into them here. Let’s just say I have a lot to say about this subject and it is high time I finally start sharing from my heart.
Come on over and join me on my couch and let’s talk about love in all its glorious aspects. I know there are other hopeless romantics out there who are like me. Or maybe, you are in a new relationship or recently engaged. If so, that is great. I want to hear your story!
Are you settled in now? Ok, back to where we were…
Language of Love
As I stated before love is a profound emotion to reflect on, but it is a fascinating subject.
Today I am going to give you a brief synopsis of how I think about love. In later blog posts, we are going to delve deeper into my own theories and those of others.
I recall having read in a book a few years back that the Greek’s had more than one word for love. When I read that statement, it made me really pay attention to what was being said. The idea that was being presented at the time I was reading was that in America we use the word “love” to represent all kinds of things.
I had never considered how freely we describe aspects of our lives with the beginning of a sentence, “I love…”
Have you? Let me list some examples of how off-handedly we do:
- “I love you!”
- “I love ice cream.’
- “Oh my gosh. I absolutely love that movie!”
- “I love how your hair looks today.”
- “There is nothing like a mother’s love.”
- “I will love you to my dying breath!”
- “I love you brother.”
I could keep going, but I believe you understand where I am going with this.
Well, in contrast, the ancient Greeks had different words for different types of love.
- Eros-Sexual Desire/Passion
- Philia-Deep Friendship
- Ludus-Playful Love
- Agape-Selfless Love
- Pragma-Longstanding Love
- Storge-Familia Love
Looking at that list makes you think a little differently, doesn’t it? I know it did me the first time I read about it, and it also made me think about how I personally use the phrase “I Love.”
For my purposes, I am going to be focusing a lot on romantic love throughout this blog series because it is the field in which I work within.
What is love?
So, what is love?
Even the dictionary has a hard time defining it, lol.
Love is a psychological and biological emotion that is unique and is universal across cultures throughout our world. Romantic love is an expression between two people who care for one another immensely, and it arises out of deep affection and attachment.
Personally, I believe romantic love begins with Eros and blossoms into something more, given the couple stays together. Over time it gets richer and matures into a masterpiece of art.
Artist, poets, songwriters, traveling bards, performers, musicians and more have all tried their hand at defining love from their perspectives over the centuries. I’m just a wedding photographer who is going to add her views as well.
Come back next week for the next blog post in this series where I will be sharing with you what happens to our brains when we fall in love.